Monday, October 5, 2009

Frustrated

Apparently beggars CAN be choosers. On a forum I've been reading (and am about to quit) a mother asked if WIC is a worthwhile program when it won't cover the groceries she wants. Among other things, she's ticked that organic milk isn't covered, or her favorite cereals, nor are the organic cheeses she wants, and the beans she can get she doesn't want to feed her daughter. She said she'll just have to keep buying these things herself, but that WIC should. Another complaint she has is that appointments can sometimes take three hours, and this is a great inconvenience, though the office is only a block away from her home.

Oh cry me a river, Lady. There are families out there who don't get to buy these things at all, who work and make just a little bit too much to qualify, but not enough to buy any cheese at all, and a gallon of milk has to last the household two weeks (welcome to our world). And she's bitching that the several gallons of milk she can get each month and the blocks of cheese aren't organic, and that the cheese is "the cheap stuff". Cheese that is "the cheap stuff" (but free to the recipient) is better than no cheese at all and a hungry tummy. Can need really be so great if one can be so choosey and three hours (and a block of travel, if such a short distance is traveling) to save money is too great of an inconvenience?

Good god, to put food into out stomachs right now means cutting anything that isn't an absolute necessity. Cable, internet (thank goodness we're close enough to the pool to pick up the free wi-fi), we don't even use the gas to go sit on the beach five miles away. We're considering cutting gas (heating gas, not car gas) because hot water just isn't required to stay alive. Eating is more about just getting something into our stomachs to stave off hunger than it is about flavor or even nutrition. Vitamins are nutrition right now. Our income is just a very small amount over the cut-off for WIC, so we qualify for nothing at all.

And that lady is bitching that the milk isn't organic, nor is the "cheap" cheese. I'd love a tall, cold glass of milk right now, and it's been over a month since there's been any cheese in our home. Milk is for making biscuits, and cheese is just too expensive. Unless mac & cheese counts? I don't think that stuff has any real cheese, but we eat it for dinner, and are glad to have it. Would she turn her nose up if she got mac & cheese for free is it wasn't Velveeta?


Moving again isn't off the table. We moved here because we rusted Cody's old bosses who promised they had his transfer lined up. Recap: The promised that when there were positions open here for his position. We could easily afford to live here in this apartment off of that pay. We found out exactly one week before moving, after ur 30-day was signed, our old apartment re-rented (for more than we were paying), and the lease signed for this place (complex-to-complex transfer meant no new deposit needed), that they had actually done nothing, and that as of that day, there were no positions at all open. We still had to move unless we could buy out of the new lease to the tune of $2,005 and find another place to move into on a week's notice. So we moved without him having a job, and he managed to get one, same company, but a big pay cut. We've been sinking every since.

So we're considering, among other things, moving back up north. We hate the idea of the town we could actually move to. It's not a safe area at all. I know. I was stuck living there for a while. It's an area where you don't ever open your windows. But it's another complex in the chain. We don't know yet how on earth we'd get the money for a moving truck, and he'd also need a job lined up.

If that doesn't work and we have to stay here, then we can't keep our baby. I know, all over the internet people are rejoicing at the heartache this is causing, and those people should be ashamed at their cruelty. But if we can't afford to eat even halfway decent right now, how can I be sure to be able to nurse? If I can't nurse, how can we afford enough formula to not have to water it down?

Hopefully though he can get a raise. Ideally he'd be able to get a raise back to what he was making before somehow That's what he's trying to talk them into today.

5 comments:

  1. Move to Alabama, cost of living is cheaper and there's an apple store in birmingham! People are nicer too, so I hear, and we all have cute accents lol :)

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  2. LOL, I'm related to probably half that state thanks to my dad! =D

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  3. Once the baby is born you should with the extra person qualify for some other assistance.

    Now you know why people get such an attitude about generational welfare. I don't mind helping out if someone needs it but those who think they are entitled to something just because they were born make most people's blood boil.The reason WIC doens't cover those thigns she likes are #1 they are twice as expensive and #2 no more nutritional. The cereals have to be the more nutritonal type and not the ones that are mostly sugar.If she can afford that stuff then she shouldn't be collecting any benefits!

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  4. Willing to say what the forum is? I have some very sheltered friends who don't believe that kind of whining occurs.

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  5. Christina, my mom's relatives are prime examples of generational welfare. Literally every single on of my cousins on that side are third generational, and their kids are fourth. My parents, thank the deities, refused to raise me and my brother like that. So they worked their asses off to move away. There's *supposed to be* a two-year cap on welfare, but the welfare agents are hesitant to kick people off "for the sake of the kids," and so these "parents" use their kids as their means of support, and the kids grow up to do the same. I've seen this. I know plenty of people don't believe that there are people out there who are 100% content living with so little, but when they've never known better, they don't miss it. As far as they see it, they don't have to work, get shelter and medical care that's free to them, clothes, food, and cash aid that's all free to them, and they don't have to do a damned thing for it aside from breed like rabbits, breed the next generation of welfare rats. It's the people like them who make those with a genuine temporary need reluctant to ask for any help.

    I agree that, if that lady can actually afford $7 for a gallon of milk and however much organic brie costs (the regular stuff is expensive enough), then she shouldn't be getting anything. She can get more than three gallons of regular milk for the cost of one gallon of organic, so where is the need if she's paying right now for the organic?

    Psy, if I remember, I'll e-mail the link tomorrow. I do have a list of measurements and such for you that I'll send tomorrow afternoon.

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